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Connecting with your Inner Healer is the key to a more peaceful world

We are born with an innate love and acceptance of our bodies. However, messages that we get from media and the world conditions our minds and shape our beliefs. These messages tell us that our weight, shape, height, appearance need to be changed.

We start believing that our bodies are somehow defective.

While this conditioning is far more prevalent in women than in men, no one is left untouched.

Many of us become stuck in a place where we are not at peace with our own lives and our bodies. We are constantly looking for quick fixes to repair what we feel is broken. 

In addition, we may also believe that what we have is not enough. That we need MORE in order to be happy and successful. More money, bigger cars and bigger houses. Social media only amplifies this focus on what we feel we lack in our lives.

Have you ever paused to ask yourself – whose definition of success and happiness are you working towards? Yours or someone else’s?

If you are not chasing your own dreams, following your own passions and enjoying what you love to to do, then it is a recipe for discontentment, frustration and resentment.

In other words, not being at peace with yourself. 

You would not want to be stuck in a place like that, would you? Neither do I.

We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.

Marianne Williamson

The struggle for self-acceptance

Challenges are a part of life.

During the course of our life, we all get wounded, one way or another. This wound may be a physical one in the form of a disease or an accident, or it may be a psychological or an emotional wound due to challenges that we face in our lives. No one is exempt from this – it’s a part of life.

It’s a part of being a living, breathing human being.

However, if you are living with a chronic illness, life can get even more tough.

Your illness may imposed major limitations on your life – what you can and can’t do. Maybe you can’t make plans to go out any more because you are not sure how you will be doing tomorrow. Or you feel exhausted all day even after sleeping more than 10 hours and can’t go for a run or play with your child.

And you struggle to accept this painful reality that is your life.

Unfortunately, not accepting reality and living in denial is what ultimately prevents us from finding a way to live our best lives in spite of our illness, our diagnosis.

Infact, the number one regret that people have at their death bed is “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.

I have written more about this in an earlier post and you can read it here.

There are 4 more regrets that that the author, Ms Bronnie Ware, palliative nurse has captured in her thought provoking book “Top 5 regrets of the dying” and I highly recommend it.

Living a life of purpose

The feeling that accompanies the regret that we were not able to share our unique gifts with the world is a painful one.

What happens when you do share your gifts with the world?

When you figure out what your unique gifts are and share it with the world, you start living a life of purpose that goes beyond your career and your professional life.

You cultivate multiple identities beyond your workplace such as being an author, blogger, artist, social worker, musician and so much more. And as you live up to your full potential, it takes you away from feeling like a “victim” of your circumstances to the “creator” of your own life. With or without a diagnosis.

More importantly, it brings you the peace and satisfaction that you didn’t realise were always craving for.

I have talked about healing as a journey in a recent live and you can watch it here

Becoming an INNER HEALER

The healing journey is one of inner transformation. It is a journey from inner turmoil, pain and confusion to one of peace, healing and clarity.
Ultimately, it is a journey from being a WEARY WARRIOR to becoming an INNER HEALER.

As I tell my community, you can’t find inner peace and sustainable health when you are fighting with your body, suppressing it or ignoring it. That is a recipe for being stuck in a WEARY WARRIOR mode, a battle against your own body that you can never hope to win.

Whereas, by making peace with your body, you can learn how to become an INNER HEALER.

You can make your body your friend and allow it to guide you and show you the way. This way you can never really get lost, no matter how difficult and unclear your path is.

However, in order to do this, you need to change the way you look at life, irrespective of whether you have a diagnosis or not. 

You need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself questions like

“What do I want from life? 

What are my dreams? 

What brings me joy? 

Am I a part of something that is bigger than myself?

And am I leaving a mark in my corner of the world?”

When you ask yourself these questions and become clear about them, your life changes.

You move from living a life of quiet desperation to a life where you are truly thriving.

And that’s when your healing begins.

Finding peace and healing within

Healing requires that we find ways to nourish our mind and body.

It requires that we pay attention to the messages our body is sending us each day, all day. It asks us to make space for stillness so that we can imbibe empathy, compassion and love in our lives. This helps to balance the constant negativity that bombards us.

This allows us to cultivate HOPE for a better life, even when the possibility seems far fetched.

And as we usher in an era of INNER HEALING, we start to recognize the profound connection between our well-being and the global collective.
We realize that the path to OUTER PEACE is intricately tied to the harmony we foster within.

Our shared humanity comes with universal experiences of growth and pain. Yet, it is through embracing these aspects that we find a common ground for healing.

When each of us commits to this path of self-discovery and self-love, we lay down the path for others to follow.

And that is how we bring peace into this world, starting with ourselves, first.

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